Marriage also have they own rules in Dayak Maanyan culture. These rules provided by their ancestor has been held until today without any significant changes. The rule is made to prevent any violation possibly made.
The youth of Dayak Maanyan usually choose their own mates. After this two young people is falling in love and seriously continue for next level, then the rule of marriage is like these :
Ijari
The couple visiting elders and hand over some kind of contract written by those two to announcing their relationship. It usually continued by their parents meeting each other to discuss about their youth marriage. This meeting result is a letter as an engagement of their youth to married.
Peminangan
Peminangan is usually held after a little agreement between families. In this event the discuss about the time they will have the marriage event, and make another agreement letter that binds the two families in cultural rules.
Now, after all the previous rules is agreed, it is time to held the marriage ceremonial. The marriage ceremonial itself is divide in parts. The parts are sacred and cannot denied..and this is the parts :
· Keagungan Mantir
· Kabanaran
· Pamania Pamakaian
· Tutup Huban (if they had grand father still lives)
· Kalakar Taliwakas
· Turus Tajak
· Pilah Sakti.
And the next chapter is Adu Bakal, it is necessary so the future brides may had their test to challenge any kind of problems in their married lives. It will be held 100 days, any violation will be charged by cultural law call Hukum Sapuhirang.
Adu Jari and Adu Hante is the real ceremonial event. In this event the brides ruled by cultural marriage law Lanyung Ume Petan Gantung. The ceremony is held with Wurung Jae and Igunung Perak.
These law is made so the lives of new couple is blessed by their parents, elder and God…
